I have found that at times I really struggle to get to my goals. It seems as though the world works against us and every obstacle finds it’s way in front of us. But, I don’t believe that failure is finite. Failures find a way of bringing out what is important to us. Failure is also a way of looking for a new door.
I have had a lot of failures in my life. Let’s start with this blog, I had an initiative and motivation because…oh yea I had a lay off that I declined to mention. Fortunately, I already had a job lined up because I had anticipated it but I felt like the epitome of failure. It is hard not to let these events puncture our souls, but I can now tell you I am an expert on the fastest ways to fail.
1. Stop trying
This step seems somewhat obvious. If we stop doing what it is that we aim to do there can be no possible way of succeeding. Letting go of my Instagram and this blog are perfect examples to prove this. I can tell you with 100% confidence from experience that if you stop going for your goals you will not succeed.
Once you have failed in this aspect, there is absolutely no way to overcome this, unless, you make the decision to re-approach these once sought after goals. This means changing your mindset to a “I can do attitude”. I heard a quote recently that I reiterate to myself daily. It goes, “don’t let what you can’t do stop you from doing what you can.” To dissect this a little, think about what you are trying to achieve. For me, I am looking for a way to be self-employed, work from anywhere, and share my unique viewpoint to an audience who is willing to listen.
After that we must learn what obstacles are preventing us. In my example, I think it is a little bit a lack of knowledge, perhaps confidence, and available time. It is impossible for a day to have more time, and without knowing where to start it can be difficult to gain the right kind of knowledge. But confidence can be gained by doing something more and so can knowledge, hence the best way of overcoming this battle is to press onward. Steve Jobs once said “I’m convinced that about half of what separates successful entrepreneurs from the nonsuccessful ones is pure perseverance.”
2. Let the Bad Thoughts Take Over
It is easy to become overwhelmed with the voices that tell you that you cannot do this or that it is not worth your time. It is much harder to look at them in the eye and say “Thank you for your feedback, but I am going to continue on this journey anyway.” My husband and I are currently on a journey to become debt free. In doing so we have been listening to a lot of Dave Ramsey podcasts, which have been very inspiring.
First and foremost I have learned that being weird or different can be awesome! It’s okay that their are nay-sayers in the world. Sometimes they are just the voices in your head holding you back. If you want to succeed at failing you need to listen to every single one of them. If that is not your goal, one might think there is better advice to be had.
3. Set Unattainable Goals
If you haven’t found a way to successfully fail yet this will surely do the trick. If you set goals with standards that are too high or impossible to reach then you surely will not reach them. Be mindful of the goals you set. Understand that there are steps that need to be taken to reach each goal. Then take action.
As I was looking for motivation today for blog writing I came across the ProBlogger podcast. The phrase that kept being repeated throughout this podcast was “take action”. Without a set of actionable steps it can be difficult to do such a thing. In one of the episodes it was made clear that you also need to have a plan. You can of course get help on this through a website like ProBlogger or you can formulate your own plan of actions. But if you continue to aim at nothing, then you will be sure to hit exactly that….nothing.
Once you have successfully implemented these 3 tactics I can assure you that you are on your way to failure. But you will grow so much faster when you learn to accept your failures as new beginnings. This is my hope for this blog going forward.
If you want to start with me from the beginning you can start here!
- What habits have you allowed that got you to failure faster?
- How have you overcome some of your failures?
- What advice might you give to help someone else overcome a struggle or failure?